Reflection
An INFJ's door slam is often less about punishment and more about a firm boundary set to protect inner life. It can feel sudden from the outside, yet it usually follows unmet needs or a deep sense of being misunderstood. The kindest first response is to respect the pause and tend to your own steadiness.
If you hope to turn things around, begin with steady, quiet gestures: give space, keep consistent behavior, and send one brief, honest message that acknowledges what happened without pleading. Offer to listen rather than demand explanations, and let reliability—small, repeated acts—do the work of rebuilding trust over time.
Also prepare for any outcome by caring for your own limits and calm. Reconnection is not a guarantee but a possibility; whether they return or not, practice gentle self-respect, learn the lessons, and let that steadiness inform your future relationships.